Uppity people

Let's start off by saying; I am not a hypacondriact. So many people have this need to diagnose themselves with something. Being uppity is not a disorder; infact it's very common. Little things bother everybody. However, most people have the reasourses to get away from that sittuation; or the brains to deal with it.I, however, live with a guy, who quite litterally makes me want to gouge my own ears out everytime he's about. People become uppity for different reasons depending on the experiences they've had.

It is not small

One of the main mistakes people make is to ignore and minimilise that which is making them uppity. They think if they ignore it; it will go away. I always suggest getting it out of the way. If something is bothering you; let it be known in the most polite possible way. If you don't do so this little irk can escalate into a big problem; and could hinder you from moving forward with your life. So, in my case, there is an ignoramous living with me; who at his liberty knocks at my door and tells me to clean the kitchen; or knocks very loudly at my window while I'm asleep to open the front door for him, or shouts at his girlfriend while I am in the house; also; he clears his throat precisely once every five seconds and makes a weird sound at least 20 times a day which sounds like he's stranggling a cat; all done very loudly...it, needless to say, bothers the crap out of me. Dealing with this sittuation is tricky, but also terribly simple. Basically, I want the freak to shut the eff up and leave me alone and stop stalking me; because that's how it feels; however, he doesn't know that that is how I feel. He asumes I'm an anti-social who stays in my room all day; and doesn't socialise with anyone else. You have to realise; the people who are bothering you don't realise they are doing so; you must point it out. Say, in a letter perhaps, 'I'm sorry I know it's an inconvinience, however, sometimes I am asleep, and I don't mind maybe you have problems, however, would you mind keeping the strange cough type noises you make to a minimum. It's just slightly off-putting. Sorry if it's an inconvienience. I won't speak about it again. Signiture' ; that, in itself can be irritating to the person with these uppidy tendencies; but getting it out of the way is far better than having to put up with it for any longer. Generally, people who are upidy lose their patience after a while and start screaming and cursing; that is what I did; However, put yourself in the other persons shoes; would you like someone screaming and shouting at you for every little thing? Pointing it out politely is far more effecctive. Even better, get completely away from the sittuation, for me, it involves, moving out.

The right enviornment

People who are upidy tend to be surrounded by things that irritate them; their room is a mess; they hate their duvet cover; their notes are dis organised; they don't like the possition of their bed. the area they live in is noisy.

Fixing these things can give a great sence of relief. Make sure your bedroom is clean and clutter free; make sure you have space to think; and surround yourself with stuff you love and people you like (especially the people you live with). Buy a new duvet cover; change the bed around, hoover the floor...

What if the enviornment in college is makeing you upity

Obviously, look into a transferal to a place that does not make you upity; however; what if that fails? Maybe it's too late? Maybe there are no other places?

It has happened to me in the past that I was stuck in a real dinge. It was in the south of the country and it was basically stripping me of my will to live; in that case I would highly advise you to look into transfering. However, if you know the course you're doing is alright; and you know you are good at it; remember; education is a privilige. Why would you waste or throw away this opportunity. Grab it with both hands; and remember: 'It's better to be a live dog; then a dead lion' ; if you drop out because a few little things bugged you; you'll leave after the year or two with no qualification. If you really are at breaking point; stick out the year; at least then you'll have something to show for it.